I don't like that expression at all. It's based on common gender stereotypes that women direct their husbands' happiness and that the husband's (or father's) mainly depends on keeping the woman happy.
In addition, the expression is heteronormative.
Just think if there was an expression that started "Happy husband"?
People might think, "Wait, why is he happy? What's he up to?"
It's still uncommon for people to think that husbands/father's can be sad, which is a point Bill Burr makes in Drop Dead Years about the "male sadness epidemic."
I too have the "regular depression," not the clinical kind. I can be "sad."
Today on Father's Day I'll be drinking the last bottle of wine I took from my father's assisted-living apartment after he passed away.
He died years ago. A couple of years I drank the other bottle I had from the apartment, which was a Chardonnay.
The one I'm drinking today is a Pink Moscato, which isn't really on-brand for me. I'm more of a drinker of Zinfandels, Cabernets, Merlots, Syrahs, and red blends.
Regardless, cheers to all the sad dads out there.
And I miss you Virg.
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